Now, I'm not talking about young couples and "first" love, then again, maybe I am. Just because someone has crossed the "30" mark (or even "40), does that mean there is no one out there for them to date? Does that mean there isn't a chance of finding love again (or real love, a first time)?
I like to think the world is a vast place, filled with possibilities. However, I'm discovering that the dating pool is slim to none....
You find a guy, think he's great, then BAM! The truth shall set you free... Or maybe that's RUN! RUN! RUN! far away!
I don't really have the answers to these questions, but in the time I've been launched back into the excitement of dating, I've discovered that today's "dating men" have rather odd qualities.
Let's start by talking about those who just want you to "send me a pic" and I don't mean of the budding blooms in the Spring sunshine. Nope, they want to see YOUR "flowers" and other "bits". Well, sorry peeps! One day I may choose to run for an elected office, don't really want my body parts buzzing around the net for all to see. I mean, let's be real, I'm over forty and body parts tend to shift around a bit when you're not a All-Star athlete (or work out for hours on end, which I admit, I don't).
Now we move on to the guys who only have one thing on their mind. Granted, I'm all about having a good physical relationship. I mean my mind tends to stay in the gutter more times than not, but that doesn't mean I don't want an intellectual side to things, as well. I mean really, there is more to life than being literally glued pelvis to pelvis. Am I right?
Next, let's expand on the physical side of the fence... This will be a bit contradictory to what my above statement indicates... When you do get to the point of wanting a physical relationship (along with the intellectual things) then how about making sure we women folk get a bit of pleasure, too?
Here's a note to the men out there.... We need more than a "minute-man" to take care of our needs and it is not all about YOU, contrary to what you might think. It's the modern times, guys. Women (most that I've spoken with) want to explore their sexuality and I'm not talking about the "missionary" position. There are so many things out there to do and try and you don't know if you'll like them until you try them.
This leads to the key word... TRUST... You must be able to trust the person you're with and frankly, I haven't found that in the dating game these past couple of years. I would really like to know where all the good "bad" guys have gone. Because you can be a good person and still have a bit of "bad" boy in you that wants to come out and play, sometimes.
So, is it worth it in the end, to get out there and plunge into the depths of dating? Or is it better to just dip your toes in and get a feel for things? Honestly, I prefer the plunge, but haven't found anyone worth taking the dive for.